It’s really, really shit.
There’s no magic solution for how utterly, horribly shitty it feels.
But for what it’s worth, here’s a few tips that I hope may help to navigate this shittiest of shitty days.
Feel all the feels
It’s OK to feel angry. It’s OK to feel jealous of others. It’s OK to feel sorry for yourself. You are not a bad person if you feel like this. You’re human. It’s hard enough already without beating yourself up as well.
Do whatever you need to do
Do whatever you need to do to get through the day. Be kind to yourself.
Indulge in some radical self care.
Treat yourself to something self-indulgent. Get a massage, go for a really boozy lunch (preferably somewhere likely to be child free), go away for the weekend.
Or if you want to hide away, and sit in your tracksuit bottoms on the sofa with chocolate and Netflix, that’s totally OK too.
Arm the defences
Short of not leaving the house (tempting), it’s impossible to avoid seeing & hearing about Mother’s Day seemingly every -bloody-where But there are a few tactics that can help to turn down the volume:
Social media. Just don’t go there. Nothing good will come of going on social media on The Day.
Reading joyful #feelingblessed posts of seemingly idyllic Mother’s Day homemade cards & breakfast in bed will not help
Reading posts from mums recounting how they’ve had a crap Mother’s Day & feel unappreciated will not help.
Just switch off & unplug until the coast is clear.
When it comes to the flurry of Mother’s Day emails (from mailing lists that despite endless GDPR emails you somehow still seem to be subscribed to) promoting gift ideas & discounts, some brands have recognised that this can be a really difficult time of year for many, and given subscribers the chance to opt out of any Mothers Day specific communications
Big shout out to brands like Bloom & Wild and Superdrug