Why your lifestyle almost certainly isn’t to blame for your infertility (despite what the Daily Mail headlines say)
[ Originally posted on Medium ]
If you’re struggling to have a baby, it can feel overwhelming to know what you should and shouldn’t do, to give yourself the best chance of success.
Well fear not! Having conducted a full meta-analysis of one leading UK tabloid newspaper (Jan 17-Aug 18), here is a summary of its bulletproof guidance and absolutely rock solid health advice, guaranteed to give you the miracle baby of your dreams.*
*disclaimer: may not be bulletproof guidance, rock solid health advice, or guaranteed to give you the miracle baby of your dreams.
Things to stop doing. Right now. These are practically contraceptives.
Reasons the Daily Mail says your lifestyle might be to blame for your infertility:
Daily Mail miracle infertility cures
Things the Daily Mail says will help you to get pregnant:
Gadgets you can buy:
The Ava fertility wristband (again. They really like this, apparently)
Specific ways you should be having sex:
Supplements you can buy:
Lifestyle and nutrition changes you need to make
Eat a handful of almonds, hazelnuts & walnuts every day* (ok, a handful, got it)
Eat 2.5 oz of walnuts every day (er…how many ounces of walnuts are there in a handful? what about the other nuts in the handful? what size hands are we actually talking about?)
Alternative therapies you need to try
How infertility will probably kill you anyway
Reasons the Daily Mail says infertility is bad for your health:
Clear and simple, right? When you’re not throwing out your tupperware; getting rid of all your cleaning products; replacing all your toiletries; going cold turkey on your mobile phone; buying your partner new boxers; strutting around with a cushion up your top pretending you’re pregnant; rethinking your career goals to make sure they’re not too ‘masculine’; trying to get just the right amount of exercise (not too little, not too much); making sure you’re getting just the right amount of sleep (not too little, not too much); cutting back on alcohol (whilst still drinking 5 glasses of red wine a month); guzzling fertility supplements; charging up all your various fertility devices (one on your wrist, one up your vagina); moving out of the city to the countryside (but not taking any anti-histamines when your allergies play up); avoiding sofas, car seats, laptops, water bottles and receipts; trying to precisely measure out the exact recommended quantity of walnuts; planning your trip to China to sit on cock-shaped rocks; working out your top 5 friends; and running back from yoga and acupuncture just in time to have sex at precisely the right time of day, in precisely the right month, in precisely the right position, and for precisely the right duration — just remember that the Daily Mail has also told you that stress can double the risk of infertility.
DO ALL THESE THINGS BUT UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES IN DOING THEM MUST YOU GET STRESSED AND UNDO ALL YOUR HARD WORK.
Ignore these at your peril — because why wouldn’t you want to be rewarded for your hard work with surprise twins or triplets, like the couples featured in these stories, with their miracle babies, all thanks to these miracle cures?
And does any of this really matter anyway - because if you’re infertile you’ll probably die early regardless?
An alternative to the Daily Mail infertility regime
Maybe it’s not your fault if you’re struggling to get, or stay, pregnant.
Maybe your infertility issues aren’t caused by anything you did or didn’t do.
Maybe you didn’t do anything to deserve this.
Maybe it’s just shitty, shitty luck of the draw.
Maybe trying to be generally healthy, taking a prenatal vitamin and following any specific guidance from your Dr is enough for you to have ‘done your bit’.
Maybe it’s more important to look after your body and mind for your own general wellbeing and sanity, than in pursuit of a miracle infertility cure.
Maybe you don’t need to beat yourself up for ‘not trying hard enough’.
Maybe you’re trying your best, and it’s now down to science and luck.
Maybe the Daily Mail doesn’t have all the answers.