Über Barrens Club - the Book
1 in 7 couples experience infertility, but amongst these are those whose journeys can be longer, more challenging, and more unsuccessful than others. And the hidden community of women supporting each other through these journeys is full of amazing, heartbreaking, inspirational stories - stories that don’t get told, because everyone only wants to hear about the success stories.
So much of the narrative around infertility and pregnancy loss contains stories of hope, and staying positive, and how 'it'll all be worth it when you have your baby in your arms’.
When I was going through treatment there were lots of self-help books with advice about starting IVF, and some memoirs sharing personal experiences of infertility and pregnancy loss. The vast majority of which had the obligatory 'miracle baby' happy ending.
MISSING VOICES, MISSING STORIES
But not everyone does get there. I didn't want endless inspirational positivity. I wanted to read a book with real women's stories. I wanted to read a book that acknowledged that infertility and pregnancy loss can be deeply traumatic, desperately unfair and utterly unrelenting.
I wanted to read a book with stories from women whose journeys didn't all end with a baby. I wanted to read a book that would reassure me that eventually we would be OK - even if things didn't turn out how we'd hoped.
I wanted to read a book that would help me feel that I wasn't alone.
So I decided to try and write one.